...If I'm the wisest person you know, I think you need to meet more people...?
Seriously, I'm not sure what to tell you, beyond the fact that you clearly have an unfortunate habit of falling for unavailable people, but I'm betting you already noticed that.
Unfortunately, I don't know what advice there is to give you, mostly I'm not sure there's anything you can actually do. Lorne is very far away, and considering how completely miserable he was the last time he was home (which, incidentally, is in the US, so even if he were back, he wouldn't be anywhere near you), I don't think he's in any rush back. You know that. It's terrible that circumstances are between the two of you like this, because I like you both very much and I think you'd make an excellent match, but... it happens. Sometimes circumstances keep people apart-- even people who would be wonderful together. I'm guessing from the fact that you said you think you could have something with him, that you have indications that he feels the same? Have you talked about this with him at all?
As to Jack... I don't know. Could you really be falling for Lorne (you realize that you might want to start calling him by his actual first name now, yes?) if things there were perfect? There must be something holding you back from committing yourself there completely. How are things really? Do you talk? Have you given much thought to where this is going? Do you know where you want it to?
This, of course, brings me to the inevitable question: what do you want to do? Of the feasible choices that are available to you (and barring things like finding out where Lorne is and sneaking out there and kidnapping him and running off to Mexico to live in sin building boats or something), which one seems most desirable to you?
I wish I could be more help, but it seems to me like your situation is very much out of your control, and I don't know how much there is you can do about it.
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Seriously, I'm not sure what to tell you, beyond the fact that you clearly have an unfortunate habit of falling for unavailable people, but I'm betting you already noticed that.
Unfortunately, I don't know what advice there is to give you, mostly I'm not sure there's anything you can actually do. Lorne is very far away, and considering how completely miserable he was the last time he was home (which, incidentally, is in the US, so even if he were back, he wouldn't be anywhere near you), I don't think he's in any rush back. You know that. It's terrible that circumstances are between the two of you like this, because I like you both very much and I think you'd make an excellent match, but... it happens. Sometimes circumstances keep people apart-- even people who would be wonderful together. I'm guessing from the fact that you said you think you could have something with him, that you have indications that he feels the same? Have you talked about this with him at all?
As to Jack... I don't know. Could you really be falling for Lorne (you realize that you might want to start calling him by his actual first name now, yes?) if things there were perfect? There must be something holding you back from committing yourself there completely. How are things really? Do you talk? Have you given much thought to where this is going? Do you know where you want it to?
This, of course, brings me to the inevitable question: what do you want to do? Of the feasible choices that are available to you (and barring things like finding out where Lorne is and sneaking out there and kidnapping him and running off to Mexico to live in sin building boats or something), which one seems most desirable to you?
I wish I could be more help, but it seems to me like your situation is very much out of your control, and I don't know how much there is you can do about it.