You don't know for sure. People don't always tell the truth-- do you? You just said you'd sat on that particular urge for quite a while, you don't know for sure that he isn't doing the same. Saying it back would have been a huge step, Ianto. It would have necessitated some sort of action. It's all very well having vague feelings and cybersex and conducting a fun flirtatious relationship over the internet, but the moment that you two admit that you're both in love with the other, that's it. Things are different. He might just be scared of that, you don't know that he isn't.

You didn't say anything wrong. You were honest with your feelings and yourself, and of course you got hurt, and drew back when he didn't immediately say he felt the same. That's totally understandable. But you shouldn't write off the possibility of something between you completely. Take a day or so and then contact him again if he hasn't contacted you.

Would you do the same for him if he needed it? If you're not doing anything to him that you wouldn't do for him, there's nothing wrong with it. Especially if he doesn't have a problem with it. You have enough things to worry about right now, don't go looking for problems where there aren't any. If Jack doesn't mind it and it makes you feel better, it's fine.

Understandable, I just wanted to make the offer in case it might help.

That would be wonderful, I'll see what I can do.