Well, so long as you're not trying to hide them from yourself, that's perfectly fine. In any case, the fact that you can do so while you're grieving is evidence of your ability to function, and it's very impressive.
There's nothing hypocritical in that. Missing one person does not mean that you can't have feelings for another. Some people would even say that it's possible to love two people at the same time, even when both of them are around, and it would of course be possible when one is absent. Your feelings for them both are different, from what I know of them, and not at all mutually exclusive, especially as you can't be with Lisa any more. There's no need to beat yourself up over that at all.
As to what to do with them... Your grief will always be with you, but there's nothing that can be done about it except to feel it, try to see the good in what it means, and wait for it to lessen with time. As for Jack... What do you want to do...?
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Well, so long as you're not trying to hide them from yourself, that's perfectly fine. In any case, the fact that you can do so while you're grieving is evidence of your ability to function, and it's very impressive.
There's nothing hypocritical in that. Missing one person does not mean that you can't have feelings for another. Some people would even say that it's possible to love two people at the same time, even when both of them are around, and it would of course be possible when one is absent. Your feelings for them both are different, from what I know of them, and not at all mutually exclusive, especially as you can't be with Lisa any more. There's no need to beat yourself up over that at all.
As to what to do with them... Your grief will always be with you, but there's nothing that can be done about it except to feel it, try to see the good in what it means, and wait for it to lessen with time. As for Jack... What do you want to do...?