I see. I still think that morgue business is very unnerving... Necessary, I'm sure, but unnerving nonetheless. It must be difficult for you to do the job without thinking of her, then. But at least you never have to be regretful about having kept secrets.
I do, too. But I think --and I'm not saying that Jack is or isn't the one who should be this person for you, because I wouldn't presume to know-- that in a... significant relationship you have to reach a point where you're not afraid to let them see all sides of you. Even the weak ones. It's hard and it takes time but it really is worth it in the end.
Although... To be honest, I've never really had to create much of an image. I tend to just express whatever's on my mind, unless I have exceptional reason not to... Except maybe for a little while at the end of my last case. That was different, though, because I was sort of in the middle of a transition and I didn't see the point in having to talk that all through with people I wasn't going to be spending much time with afterwards anyway. On balance, though, I think it's better to just let people see you for who you are, and take it how they will.
It seems... rather cold that they forgot, but it's always easier for other people to forget than the one who's hurting, of course. And people can find it... difficult talking to others about their loss and accomodating that distress, so I think a lot of the time they just put it out of their head so they don't have to address it.
It's completely understandable for you to have been angry and bitter, though. It was very thoughtless on their part, but I'm sure it wasn't intentional or any reflection on you so much as it is an indication that people... are generally just very self-involved. Even the good ones.
no subject
I see.
I still think that morgue business is very unnerving... Necessary, I'm sure, but unnerving nonetheless.It must be difficult for you to do the job without thinking of her, then. But at least you never have to be regretful about having kept secrets.I do, too. But I think --and I'm not saying that Jack is or isn't the one who should be this person for you, because I wouldn't presume to know-- that in a... significant relationship you have to reach a point where you're not afraid to let them see all sides of you. Even the weak ones. It's hard and it takes time but it really is worth it in the end.
Although... To be honest, I've never really had to create much of an image. I tend to just express whatever's on my mind, unless I have exceptional reason not to... Except maybe for a little while at the end of my last case. That was different, though, because I was sort of in the middle of a transition and I didn't see the point in having to talk that all through with people I wasn't going to be spending much time with afterwards anyway. On balance, though, I think it's better to just let people see you for who you are, and take it how they will.
It seems... rather cold that they forgot, but it's always easier for other people to forget than the one who's hurting, of course. And people can find it... difficult talking to others about their loss and accomodating that distress, so I think a lot of the time they just put it out of their head so they don't have to address it.
It's completely understandable for you to have been angry and bitter, though. It was very thoughtless on their part, but I'm sure it wasn't intentional or any reflection on you so much as it is an indication that people... are generally just very self-involved. Even the good ones.