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[likesthecoat]

Today I bought wedding magazines.

This was a mistake.

You want to know why this was a mistake? Well, I'm going to tell you. BECAUSE THE WEDDING INDUSTRY IS COMPLETELY BRIDE-ORIENTED AND IS NOT HELPING ME AT ALL.

I suppose this is good in its way, because it gives us license to invent our own traditions and make our own decisions, but on the other hand . . . I would really like to do this right.

At this rate you lot will be lucky if you get a cup of water and a slice of cake at the reception, I hope you realize that.

And you're only getting cake because Lorne wants cake.

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[rockscientist.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the cake, baby.

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

I will always give you cake, baby.

[rockscientist.livejournal.com]

Just one of many reasons I love you.

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

*kisses you* By the way, are you busy Thursday at 10:00?

[rockscientist.livejournal.com]

I don't have to be. Why?

[chigong-master.livejournal.com]

Hm...

Well, if you need/want some help, let me know...


I've been told I'm...fussy. -_-;

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I may take you up on that: I can't even find a wedding planner I like.

[chigong-master.livejournal.com]

Oh dear... so no pressure at all then to impress, ne?.. ^_^;

**grins**

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

No pressure at all! Only that I'm completely at sea here and professionals aren't really helping that much.

[hisdarklady.livejournal.com]

Would you like some help BB? I've never been one for doing what everyone else does (I personally think a huge party with just a small intimate time in the middle for vows would be nice).

But I'd be willing to lend a hand/ear/breast/other body part to help. Except you can't have the moon bounce. Thats for my wedding.

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

I think I need all the help I can get. I mean, there's all these checklists and things but I don't know how much is really necessary, and Lorne pretty much just wants what I want, and, and, and ARGH.

Please bring your breasts. I think I need them to calm me down.

[hisdarklady.livejournal.com]

Okay first deep breaths. In and out, in and out-- you with me Ianto? Okay, second: Don't stress. All this is is a party with friends and family celebrating your and Lorne's love. It can be as formal or informal as you want it to be.

It doesn't have to be the fairy princess wedding unless you want it to be. Okay?

So! What are your thoughts so far? Location? Ideas on what to do, you following the "normal" church-type wedding format or are you looking for something a bit different?


And see look! Breasts!

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

Hello, girls. Miss you.

We have to do the civil partnership registration, so I'm not thinking about that much. That part will be easy.

Afterwards we've asked Sanzo to do a blessing ceremony kind of thing, and he's looking into having it done at the temple he works at. So that's part two.

And then we want to do a reception at our house, providing we have a house by then.

Lorne wants to wear his grandfather's kilt so we're playing off that, but I don't know if I want to wear a tuxedo or morning suit, I'm not sure what color, we don't know how we want to decorate the cake, we have decided to use the colors from the kilt in the decorations but I don't know what decorations . . . and the magazines are just chock full of all these knicknacks and things. ARGH. Did I mention ARGH?

[harpermd.livejournal.com]

This? This is me biting my tongue and not saying anything about you having been a girl and therefore being able to qualify (somehow) as a bride.

You could always elope? But I'm going to guess that the ceremony(ies) isn't the part you're really flipping out about, izzit?

Just let me know if I need to start checking your blood pressure to make sure you're not giving yourself an aneurysm with all this.

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

Dr. Harper, that's not helping.

I mean, seriously, if we just wanted simple we could do the registration and be done with it. But we want a party. People will be coming from a long way away and I want to dance with my husband at our wedding, dammit.

[harpermd.livejournal.com]

**shrugs** Worth a shot anyway. ^_^

So have a party and dance at your wedding. Who says you have to figure everything out right now? Take a deep breath, make a list of things to figure out, and take things a day at a time, or you're gonna end up driving yourself mad.

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

For one thing, we want to get married in October, so if we don't do it now it'll be done at the last minute. I thought six months would be plenty of time, but it's now down to five months and we've really decided very little.

I do have a list. I have many lists. I look at these lists and I just get overwhelmed.

[lovethisplanet.livejournal.com]

Well, I'm the last person on the planet you want to be asking about wedding planning, but I was in Brighton a couple of years ago, and found this (http://www.choccywoccydoodah.com/) place, which do pretty damn amazing cakes. There's a lot of different designs, and they also take requests. Pretty sure they deliver, as well, so that'd be something off your mind.

A wedding without cake is just sad, Ianto. You don't want people to be sad - least of all Lorne.

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

I think their server's down: I can't get it to load. But I'll keep them in mind. I think Lorne wants something much more original than the traditional three tiers.

[Private to Jack ]

By the way, there's something I want to ask you. Do you have a few minutes?

[lovethisplanet.livejournal.com]

Shame - they're good. Chocolate sculpting's their thing. Never mind, though. You've got plenty of time, right?

[Private to Ianto]

Sure thing, what's up?

[OOC: ...Ahahahahaha. Let's just... pretend this isn't a million years late? :S]

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

Lots of time. I hope. *deep breathing*

[Private to Jack]

I need a best man.

[ooc: *patpat* Sure thing.]

[sanzo-31.livejournal.com]

-You know what you want ceremony-wise.
-You have the officiate.
-You know where the ceremony is going to be held.

Those are three major things you've already accomplished, my friend.

You'll have nice color in the gardens and around the gazebo: the green of the yew hedges, the brilliant red of the Japanese maples, the white of the Japanese anemone and the hydrangea, purples, yellows... you couldn't ask for a more gorgeous setting for your day.

As for your meal... I recall you saying to me once that you liked the idea of handfasting due to its Celtic ties. Why not do something similar for your reception? I know that it is Western tradition to have a wedding cake, but nothing says it has to be elaborate and heavy- or overly large and pretentious like the ones I've seen. Perhaps consider a small 'wedding cake', and then some of the traditional Welsh cakes like teisen lap or teisen mel. And, with the cheeses, breads, beef, lamb and seafood that are traditional staples for this country, you could put together a very nice formal meal, or even a casual one where everyone 'grazes', and circulates and socializes.

One more thing; I know you wish to have the reception at your home, but it might alleviate some of your stress by having it else where. The gardens would work very nicely for the more casual meal, or I'm certain we could use the large training dojo should you decide you want to sit down. **smirks** I promise you, it doesn't look like your traditional gymnasium. As a matter of fact, it's quite the plain room when it's empty.

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

Oh. Oh my, that is a lovely idea, having it at the temple. We've been trying to find ways to keep things simple: not having to transport everyone to another location would be so helpful.

Could I stop by after work to look at the dojo? And would they allow dancing there? The dancing is very important.

[sanzo-31.livejournal.com]

**chuckles** I can promise you, there won't be an issue. Traditionally, dancing is a large part of both Buddhist celebration and training. And, you're more than welcome to drop by after work. I'll just let Hakkai and Owen know I'll be a bit later than usual.

(OOC: Here's a picture of a traditional Buddhist training dojo (http://i103.photobucket.com/albums/m128/puppyuke/buddhistdojo.jpg) just for a visual **grins**.

[morethanteaboy.livejournal.com]

Brilliant. Thank you so much, Sanzo.


[ooc: Pretty!]